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When is it time to change?
When you become aware of dissatisfaction in
your life. What causes people to examine how
they got caught up in their present
situation? Often a word from a friend�not
always a kind word either�a book you read, a
speaker you heard. It begins when it occurs
to you there may be hope for a better life.
It begins when you believe there is a better
way. It is the first ray of hope.
Many people who are frustrated or frightened
or in pain don�t reach out to discover the
source of that pain and are not willing to
change. Many people don�t do anything to
remove whatever is blocking their lives.
They don�t believe they have power to change
themselves, their circumstances or the
outcome of their lives. Or the discomfort is
just bad enough to make them realize they�re
unhappy�and sit around complaining for
years�but not painful enough to really make
them take any action.
To deal with their disappointment, people
may overeat, drink, deny it, do drugs,
cheat, lie, stay out, stay in, do for
others, do for themselves, forget it, dwell
on it, go to class, read books or do
anything in the world but change.
Numbing ourselves is a great way to avoid
the pain of anger or hurt, but the bad news
is the pain of disappointment keeps coming
back to haunt us unless we fix the root
problem permanently. The little voices that
hit us just when we think we have things
figured out, are the Monster Lies�negative
beliefs that kept us from happiness and
success�living inside our psyche, just
itching to get out.
So much of what has been limiting you�or
downright stopping you�has to do with the
beliefs that are floating around in your
head like unchangeable truths. When, in
reality, they�re Lies (untruths) that have
been fed to you by lots of often
well-meaning, but misguided, people. When we
buy these tenets as the �gospel,� these
comments sit and incubate. They become so
real that we can�t tell reality from
fiction. Eventually we get so discouraged
that we�re sure there is absolutely nothing
we can do.
Stop and think a second. What separates you
from the star tennis player, the president
of the student body, the CEO of your
company, the mayor of your town or your
incredibly happy friend? Not their money,
not their looks or talent or intellect. It�s
their beliefs.
Remember, everything you know about yourself
is based on a belief you�re holding. If you
think you can be successful, happy, win the
election, have great grades, maybe you can.
If someone, or several someones, convinces
you otherwise�and you accept that as
truth�then you start to believe that you
can�t.
So in very simplistic terms, if we can
control the Monster Lies�and they�re very
real, living creatures just waiting to
sabotage us every chance they can�then there
are truly no real limits as to what we can
accomplish, do, have, feel and enjoy.
Sally Franz and Jennifer
Webb are motivational speakers and
co-authors of the award winning personal
development book "Monster Lies: A Woman's
Guide to Controlling Her Destiny." This life
changing book has a foreword from Linda
Bloodworth-Thompson (creator of "Designing
Women"). It has received praise from Mark
Victor Hansen of the Chicken Soup series,
Publisher's Weekly and has received a 2003
IPPY award. "Monster Lies: A Woman's Guide
to Controlling Her Destiny" is available at
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